Sleepless nights can become a burden for someone experiencing insomnia, and can even put a strain on a relationship. When sharing your sleeping quarters where insomnia is present, it can be a difficult and frustrating situation to manage – for both sides of the bed.

Take a look at these guidelines in coping with insomnia in your relationship.

Diagnosis & treatment. The first step in tackling insomnia is to diagnose the problem. Contrary to popular belief, insomnia is not a stand-alone medical condition – it is a symptom of a medical condition. Studies show that 30%-50% of Americans have trouble sleeping, the cause of which ranging from acid reflux to stress. See your doctor at the onset of this problem to identify the core issue. There are many medical and behavioral treatments available that can help you get a better night’s sleep. As a couple, investigate this together and find a treatment option that works best for your lifestyle and underlying condition.

Eliminate bed time stress. For the person suffering from insomnia, bed time can be stressful. Not only is there anxiety in facing yet another long sleepless night, there is also worry in trying not to disturb the other person. On the other end of the spectrum, the situation can also be stressful for the partner that is not experiencing insomnia. They may internalize the cause of the insomnia, believing that any movement or sound on their part may be causing more suffering for their ailing significant other.

All in all, bed time in an insomnia-ridden relationship is stressful. In order to eliminate this stress, you may want to consider sleeping in separate bedrooms temporarily, or at least until the treatment process has begun for the insomniac. This will allow both parties to be relieved of guilt in keeping the other awake, and can allow for some peaceful awake time for the insomniac if needed.

Create a relaxing environment. Creating a relaxing environment in the bedroom can actually be a pleasant change for both partners. In the perfect sleep inducing room, the space should be free of TVs, noise and distraction – yes, this means Miss Kitty should be kicked out. Light should also be regulated, which can easily be done with heavy drapery on the windows. Colors can also induce a relaxed state and can be introduced into your bedroom cheaply with a fresh coat of paint, accent pillows or blankets. Stick to cool shades of blue, green, and the neutrals white, gray, and silver. Scent can also be helpful, just be sure not to go overboard. Mist your linens or carpets with some lavender or chamomile room spray; Febreeze even carries a lavender scent that is light enough to do the trick.

Support, support, support. The inability to sleep or stay asleep can have a detrimental effect on life quality and wellness. Be understanding of what your partner is going through with insomnia, and learn all you can about the treatment plan and how you can contribute. Try talking about how the condition is affecting your partner and what frustrations he may be dealing with. Oftentimes insomnia is caused by stress or anxiety over issues at work or at home – initiate an open dialogue about what these issues may be, as it may help him or her to talk and work it out with you. You should also exert a great deal of patience throughout your partner’s insomniac episodes – although his sleepless nights may be affecting you, anger or frustration should never be directed at your partner. Insomnia is not something that can be controlled, and your patience and understanding is crucial. Offer a warm embrace and a kind word – be your partner’s personal cheerleader, and together you will both overcome this trying time.